Personal Hygiene

This should be common sense but apparently it’s not. It must be one of those, ‘easier said than done’ type deals. Regardless, personal hygiene is a MUST and if you think this entry does not apply to you, think twice. It applies to EVERYONE.

Let’s talk about the list…

Hands: This is more for the men than the ladies, but equally important for both. Everything that involves touching almost always involves our hands. Therefore germs are constantly with us. Just because we can’t catch colds with germy hands through our genitals, does not mean we can’t catch other stuff or irritate things. Guys, your hands are usually the first thing to touch our vaginas and if you have not washed your hands or have dirt under your finger nails, we can very much get a bacterial infection just because you didn’t wash your hands. And when that happens, it’s not fun for us or for you because no one is getting laid. Along with that, if you bite your nails or they break easily and you snag a woman’s vagina, be prepared to go to sleep with blue balls. And ladies, the nail snagging applies to you too, especially if you want to scratch a man on his back or wherever, won’t feel good when he starts bleeding. Last but not least, don’t stick your finger in anyone’s mouth if you haven’t washed your hands. No one wants to taste dirt. So keep your hands clean at all times but especially during any kind of sexual activity!

Feet: Why is it so hard to keep feet clean and looking nice? If you take care of them it shows that you take care of yourself and this applies to men and women. If you’re a guy and you think getting pedicures is gay, you need to check yourself. There is nothing nicer than looking at a pair of feet right before sex and giving the stamp of approval. Feet have to be treated like hands and although most people don’t ever involve their feet during sexual activities, they have to be well maintained nonetheless. Nails clean and clipped and bottom of feet hydrated. No one thinks dry, crackly feet are cute and if you snag clothes or even skin with your crackly feet, especially during sex, be prepared to kill the mood. So keep your feet presentable and smelling nice!

Mouth: Brush your teeth. If you’re going to possibly meet up with someone and have sex, brush your teeth. If for some reason you can’t, chew gum, eat a mint…do something to make your breath fresh. You know when you’re breath isn’t fresh. Eating, drinking, smoking or any other activity involving the mouth requires freshness after. Making out involves lots of saliva, and the truth is, when it tastes a certain way, or not fresh, getting all that saliva in your mouth just doesn’t sound appealing and if you’re the one with the not-so-fresh breath, you’ll get branded as that. And once you’re branded, chances are you won’t be making out as much as you’d like to! So keep the mouth fresh and clean!

Legs: This one is mostly for the ladies, but also for the men that shave their legs. Keep your legs freshly shaved, or fully grown out (for the men). There is no in between. When you’re naked and you start rubbing your legs with your partners’ legs, no one wants to get scratched up and nothing feels better than fresh smooth legs! Hydrate your legs as well. Dry, cracked skin is not in and never will be. Ladies, I know that shaving your legs constantly seems like a hassle, just ball park when you might be getting yours, and shave that day! If that doesn’t always happen, at least keep them maintained as best you can.

Underarms: I’m just going to put this out there. Armpits can be very gross or they can be nice. Deodorant is our friend. Over use it. Men, there are deodorants out here for you guys that smell so amazing it’ll make a woman drop her panties. Use them. Women, same for us, we have such good smelling deodorants, don’t hesitate to use them. For those of you that sweat profusely, there are special deodorants that are made especially for that. Also, shaved, well-kept underarms are the best way to go, for men and women. Of course women, unless you’re in Europe, shave your underarms. I don’t think even in Europe it’s attractive but that’s beside the point. Men, you might feel emasculated, but shaving your underarms is actually much more desired than you think. Us women put our heads by your underarms all the time, and we prefer nice, fresh smelling, possibly hairless underarms. I know there are ladies out there that prefer a hairy man, but that usually pertains to the chest area. All in all, make sure your underarms smell nice!

Ears: Having your ears licked or bitten is always a yummy part of making out but if your ears aren’t clean, they probably won’t be getting licked or bitten much longer. It’s not healthy to clean your ears everyday, but it isn’t wise to do it every 3 months either. This is common sense, just don’t forget to keep your ears clean, people’s mouths are going in that area!

Hair: Who doesn’t love fresh smelling hair that they can run their fingers through and grab? It’s not healthy to wash your hair everyday, at least for the women it’s not, but if you were at a bar the night before and people were smoking around you, chances are your hair doesn’t smell so good. Guys, if you’re the type to put all kinds of products in your hair so that your spikes will cut someone, just know that although it may look good, it doesn’t play well with sex…wash it out. Both men and women love to run hands in their partner’s hair for whatever reason while having sex, so make that possible! Soft, yummy smelling hair is always the route to take!

Pubic Hair: This is such a huge one with lots of controversy. I’ll start with the men. Guys, although your shaft doesn’t have hair on it, when we hit base, there will be hair down there. Now, not that it’s always bothersome but a trim is definitely necessary. I wouldn’t suggest completely shaving either. Pubic hair is so coarse that even a day after shaving does not feel good. And if a woman is riding you, believe that her vagina is getting sand papered. Not only that, you are very prone to ingrown hairs which doesn’t ever look cute. A trim will suffice.

Ladies, the majority of men like absolutely no hair. Shaving is always a good way to go even though as I mentioned above, pubic hair is coarse, but if you must, make sure your razor is sharp! Another route to take is waxing, it’s painful but looks and feels nice plus it thins out your hair each time you do it. And if that is absolutely not an option, then just keep it trimmed. No one wants to eat a bush straight out of the jungle.

Genitals: Now this one is the mother of all topics pertaining to personal hygiene. Right before you go down on someone, you’re hoping that they’re clean and not smelling funky. Everyone needs to shower before sex. I know lots of times that’s never even possible, but please, somehow, find a way. Everyone knows when there’s a chance you might have sex so just in case, shower. If it’s a hot day and you’ve been sweating in your jeans or if there’s moisture, chances are, it’s going to be a little funky, just take a quick shower. Having clean genitals is priority. If you’re shaking your head thinking it’s hard to do that, you shouldn’t be having sex. Keep it in your pants until you can keep it clean out of your pants.

Common sense guys. I’ve laid it out for you in layman’s terms. Use it, your partner will be much happier you did and you won’t have to worry about being ashamed hoping they won’t notice because they will!

So ladies and gentlemen, relax, it’s just sex. Get yours!

Men: If you like to eat, then eat vaginas!

*Note: If you can get a woman to cum in less than one minute of eating her out, below does not apply to you. Keep up the good work! ;)

I love it when a man is ready to just dive in and eat out a woman’s vagina. It’s the best feeling EVER! I feel that women have a bit harder time enjoying a man going down on her than men have with women going down on them. Why? Because women are conscious of damn near everything, and we need to stop and enjoy when a man is eating our pussy. Men, it is up to you to make us feel comfortable and if you’re comfortable with eating us out, you’ll make us very comfortable.

For those of you that have no problem going down on a woman, I applaud you and keep up the good work. For those of you that don’t like it, don’t want to do it or don’t feel comfortable doing it…here are a few things:

-Don’t expect her to give you head, if you won’t go down on her. Like I mentioned with the women, it’s just not fair. Give and receive.

-If you go down there just to get us wet and you don’t enjoy it, not only will we feel that tension but you for sure will not get us wet.

-If you don’t like doing it, man up and learn to like eating pussy. You probably don’t like it because you haven’t received too many positive results from it. Don’t let that stop you because it’s fun, gets both of you going and is a great gateway to great sex.

-If you don’t feel comfortable, ask her what she wants…how she likes it. One of the worst things you can do is roam around down there without a clue on what to do.

Now guys, one major crucial thing I need all of you to know is this: a huge majority of women will not come unless you stimulate the CLITORIS. This does not consist of sticking your tongue or finger in our vaginal canal. If you know how to flick the clit, you can literally make a woman cum in less than one minute. Not joking. Most women say it’s hard for them to cum. It’s not, we cum very easily, it’s just that you guys aren’t hitting the right spot and a lot of women don’t take the time to really explore their bodies and know exactly what hits right so we can only tell you when it starts to feel good. But the first step to doing it right is going straight to her clit. If later you feel comfortable using your fingers or roaming all over the place down there, (with her permission) then go to it, but we’ll cum when you’ve stimulated the clitoris.

I know that sounds like typical basic info, but I know the ladies are nodding their head yes because we’ve experienced this one too many times. Repeat: tongue on clit, not in vagina.

So, I know some guys have this complex about some fishy things going on down there, well guess what, sex is dirty. Our vaginas are not these perfect little kitties. They’re all different just like every guy’s penis, but they function the same. If you think her cum is nasty, try tasting YOUR cum. Cum is a salty bodily fluid that probably isn’t meant for drinking. So everyone should stop complaining about how it tastes and focus on pleasing your girl. (Same goes to the women!) But keep in mind, showers are highly recommended before any foreplay/sex goes down!

**On a side note, eating fruits makes your cum less salty! ;)

On to basic eating etiquettes. Guys, please, please, pleeeeease do not “make-out” with our vaginas. That’s what our mouth is for. Do not kiss or peck our clits. This is an all tongue action category. Once you master the tongue action, sure, move on to lips and other things that will enhance the experience but first, make sure you know how to get her off with just your tongue. Now when using your tongue, go soft in the beginning then more pressure towards the end. The clitoris is very, very sensitive. Even the slightest touch of your tongue feels really good, so no need to go in hard or with lots of pressure. Licking up and down, side to side, flick it…all of that works. Use just your tongue, do not lean your entire head on her vagina, stop being lazy. Pay attention to your girl, her body will let you know what feels good. If you hadn’t had a girls legs trembling while you’re going down on her you have yet to give good head. When we are close to cumming, our legs shake, we breath deeper, we may grab you, moan louder…we’ll do something to let you know we’re cumming! Now at that point, when we’re right about to come you have to stop the tongue movement! Yes, stop it! At that point just apply pressure! Right when we’re cumming it’s ultra sensitive and we don’t get the full cum experience when you keep fucking with it. Stop and put pressure until we have finished cumming, and we can take more than a few seconds to let it all out.

Hopefully this clears up some confusion for guys who perhaps were not informed on that bit. Seriously guys, you might be in between our legs, but you have all the power. You’re in control of everything from teasing us to making us cum but of course, know what you’re doing. If you’re having a hard time, try having us sit on your face. It’s much easier for us because we can move where we want and all you have to do it just lay there and put your tongue to work! Plus you have more range of motion to touch her body!

So like I said, these are basics to eating a vagina. Every girl does have their specifications on what will get them off faster, but go by these guidelines and the majority of women should be able to get off. Be proud to give good head guys because know that’ll we’ll come back for more!

So gentlemen, relax, it’s just sex! Get yours!

Ladies: Fellatio...just do it

It’s no big secret that men love head. I mean they LOOOVE it. Some prefer it over sex. There are the very few that don’t like it at all, and I’m a firm believer that it is because they either haven’t had really good head or they’ve had a bad experience with it. Regardless, men love head and ladies, to give/get the best sexual experience you should not only give it, be good at it and enjoy doing it!

Going down on each other is part of foreplay. Foreplay warms up both bodies sexually and prepares it for intercourse. During this period, it is crucial that both parties have fully communicated what each wants and it is up to the partner to deliver. With that being said, if you don’t like giving it, don’t expect to receive it. Period. It’s not fair. If you don’t like it, try practicing with someone you trust, learn what he likes, get good at it and you’ll probably like it then. Lots of people don’t want to go down because they just don’t know what they’re doing. All I have to say is practice makes perfect! (If you think it’s nasty, perhaps some maturing would suffice.)

When giving head, always keep in mind these basic things:

- If you don’t want to be down there, he’ll know and it won’t be fun for either of you. Get out of your head and enjoy it for what it is. He does the same to you!

- Get into it. Men are visual and if they see you having a good time with their fellow they’re going to cum faster and associate YOU with good head. And that’s NOTHING to be ashamed about. Give him a show!

- Make use of both your hands and mouth, even your breasts if you want to have some fun! ;)

- Just like our clit is a great companion with our vagina, so is a man’s scrotum with his penis. Do not ignore that, it is a huge part of a great oral sex for a man. Whether you’re ballsy enough to put them in your mouth or just cup them, they want you to pay some attention to it, so keep that in mind!

Now, in general most men just want you to put their dick in your mouth, to speak quite frankly, but the last thing you want to do is just go down and put it in your mouth. Don’t be lame. Make his dick your bitch. You own it, you’re in control of it and you decipher when it can cum. Got it? If you feel that going down on a guy makes you less of a person or you feel inferior, just keep in mind that his penis, the thing that makes him a man, is in your mouth…with teeth, and the last thing he wants to do is have you use them. So use it to your advantage but of course, have fun with it, play with it, tease it. I can go on forever on little things you can do to make giving head enjoyable for you and very desirable for him but find out what peaks his sexual interest specifically. Ask him what he likes and listen to things he might say while doing it and if he grabs your hand to show you, take note!

Don’t be scared to “hurt” him either. When a man’s dick is hard, it’s hard, and almost any touch feels good to him. Grab his dick strong and firm. Now, when it gets flaccid he might feel the repercussions of how hard you might have gone, but that comes with getting practice and knowing how hard or soft to go on him, whether it be with your mouth or hands. Along with that, just like we like to be wet, so should his penis be. If you’re giving a hand job and it’s dry, believe it’ll start hurting him either then or later. Your hands and mouth should be able to slip up and down his dick, just like your vagina should. Period.

So the time is going to come, when he cums, and you have to decide what to do then. Just a quick side note, right when you feel him cumming (his penis will throb or he’ll tell you) stop the movement whether it be with your mouth or hands and wrap your hand around his base, squeeze tightly and keep it there while he cums. No need to keep going at that point, just like a guy should stop when we cum. My advice is to use your mouth of course when he cums because it could be very messy otherwise, and it’s up to you whether you want to swallow or spit. I am a firm believer that you do whatever you are more comfortable doing, although guys like it when you swallow because it’s not like they can spit out our cum anyways. But if you need to spit, just get up go spit and come back. Don’t make a fuss about it, round two should be coming soon and you don’t want to spoil the mood.

I just wanted to cover basics on giving head because I feel that women have a complex about it and we shouldn’t. We should give it, like it and know that we literally have them by the balls. There’s absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about, because let’s face it, sex isn’t meant to be pretty and perfect. It’s supposed to be dirty, sweaty and sexy.

So ladies, relax, it’s just sex! Get yours.

Communication?? What is that?

I would like to say that probably 98% of people are guilty of NOT communicating. If you haven’t heard, rumors are…communication is key-TO EVERTHING. Communicating in bed will make sex so much better, I promise!

Everyone has been in that situation when you want to say something to your partner about whatever they are doing in bed but for whatever reason, you don’t say it. The last thing we want to do is kill the mood so we stay quiet. We don’t want to embarrass anyone or make anyone look stupid. So we stay quiet. There are lots of reasons to stay quiet, but alas, I’m telling you now, NEVER stay quiet!

Top reasons for having to speak up…

1: If you are in any uncomfortable position or even feeling pain during sex, speak up! For ladies especially, even though he looks like he’s having a grand ‘ol time, he’ll never know you were uncomfortable or feeling pain unless you say something. Faking the moan will never get you YOURS. (Guys, ladies really do this, pay attention.)

2: Let’s say your partner has gone down on you and is very clearly NOT doing it well or doing it how you want…say something! They’ll be down there forever without a clue and you’ll never get yours.

3. There is a position or thing that they can do that you love that you know will get you yours but they are just not doing it…speak up!

4. If you’re feeling good and they are doing everything right- you better speak up and let them know! (Nothing feels better than pleasing your partner just the way they like and hearing it!)

And of course there are plenty more but those are the general points that I’d like to touch on.

Being naked and intimate with someone can make both parties feel very vulnerable and everyone wants sex to go smoothly without any complications, well unfortunately, not everyone knows exactly how to please you to your exact liking, so you must communicate what you want.

I know no one wants to get told how to have sex. I get it. But, if you just put your sexual ego away for 2 seconds, you might learn something new and be a better sex partner. To ever think that you know all the tricks in the book will only weaken your sex game, big time. Every man and woman has different things they like and to approach every partner with the same tricks shows that you have not really opened up your sexuality to learn and grow to have great sex. So take the tips from your partner, don’t let it embarrass you, do it how they like and see how much quicker you’ll get them off.

And if you’re new to the game, if you’re not confident in eating a woman’s vagina or giving a guy head, then ASK questions! Does this feel good? Show me how you like it. Let me know when it feels good. Ask, find out and learn!

All my posts will probably be touching on some form of communication, just like my posts so far already have. But I just want to throw it out there that it is perfectly normal to tell someone how you like it and how you want it done. For those on the receiving end, let them know what you want, in any way you can (nicely, of course). Those of you on the giving side, be open-minded and don’t let your ego get in the way, you’d be surprised at the new things you could learn!

Ladies and Gentleman, relax, it’s just sex, so get YOURS!

faking the orgasm...

I think this is vital for the ladies, so listen up!

NEVER, EVER, EVERRRR FAKE AN ORGASM!!! EVER! And here are the reasons why...

1. Most importantly...You never get yours.

2. You make him think he did a good job, when in reality, he didn't.

3. He'll continually do the same moves that he "thought" made you orgasm, which will suck for you.

4. If he ever finds out...his sexual ego will be really hurt.

We all like to think we're good in bed and that we're bringing new moves to the table. Most of the time, that isn't true. But regardless, good sex consists of both parties having fabulous orgasms. Now if someone (man or woman) fakes an orgasm, the other party will think they are doing something right and hold on to that “right” move and take pride in it. If after that they find out that you faked an orgasm, they would be pissed but mostly, their sexual ego would be hurt. No one wants their sexual ego hurt.

Now some of you may think, "Well I wanted to get it over with because it wasn't good and I wanted to stop." Totally fine, that happens. In that case, just stop. Get up, put your pants on and leave it at that. Because no matter which way you decide to handle the bad sex, you're going to hurt their sexual ego, but the worst of all scenarios is faking the orgasm. And no matter which route you choose, you still never get yours.

By not faking the orgasm, you show that person that what they are doing isn’t working. We all want to reach our sexual potential and when we get “fake” feedback, it doesn’t help our much-wanted skills. And although you may never have sex with that person again, they will go on to continue those unsuccessful skills to the next person and eventually they will learn the hard way that what they’ve been doing this entire time hasn’t been working. We all want to learn the right, successful ways of making the best orgasm happen and it’s up to everyone to help in that process by saying NO to fake orgasms!

A little side note for the ladies- when a man is going down on you, and it’s not working, you need to speak up and tell him what you want, they’re not mind readers. (I will post about communication in bed.) Don’t fake the moan either, they play off that. If after a long period of time you just don’t think it’s going to happen, let him know so he can stop because lots of men will stay down there until they get you off and if for whatever reason at that moment you know you can’t get off, it’s only fair to let him know and you guys can continue doing something else.

A little side not for the men- not every woman is the same but generally, we do have the same pleasure spots. If you notice that we aren’t giving good feedback or are laying stagnant, also speak up and ask what you can do to make it better. Switch it up a bit and try new things, when it feels really good, you’ll be able to sense the realness in our reaction. ;)

Now with that being said, no one turns pro overnight. It does take time, but if all orgasms are good and true, one can only get better from there. I am against fake orgasms because they condone bad sexual habits and I want to get MINE. So don’t fake the funk.

And ladies and gentleman, relax, it’s just sex.

When to PROPERLY insert your penis...

Many of you are reading the title thinking, what a dumb topic. It's common sense when a guy should insert his penis. Well if it were that common, guys wouldn't be doing it, yet I hear so many women complain about how guys just don't have the patience to get a girl wet enough to have really good sex.

Men: We all know you get hard in .2 seconds and are ready to go in a blink of an eye, but if you truly want to have good sex and make it good for the woman as well, you need to have some patience and make sure you get her really wet. I mean really wet. Just because you can slip your finger in her vagina and you feel the moistness, doesn't mean that it's wet enough for your penis. As a friend once said, "I make sure there's a waterfall coming out of her vagina before I slip my penis in."

Keyword "slip". If your dick can slip in her vagina without the help of either of your hands, she's wet enough, doesn't matter how tight or loose she is. Seriously. If you need help getting it in, she needs help getting more wet.

You may ask, if she's even a little wet, what's the big deal, it might be a tighter squeeze but it's still good for me. Well it's not good for us women because after you thrusting away for so many minutes it starts to feel very uncomfortable and sometimes even hurt. Once we feel any kind of discomfort at all, we lose the ability to STAY wet, therefore we get "dry" and makes sex not fun for either of us by then.

Now at that point, let's say you keep going and thrust away, you will cause pain for us and some women just don't say anything for whatever reason, (I'll later post about communication in bed) and she wakes up the next morning feeling like someone ripped her vagina open. Yes, it's that painful and lasts for a few days. (You can literally tear her skin and it happens quite often due to this.)

SO GUYS- reiterating...please take the time out to get the woman wet. Some might take longer than others, but we all need it regardless. However you decide to do it, just get it done. Also, using lube or spit might work for the time being as you insert, but trust, nothing works like a woman's natural cum.

I love hearing feedback, please let me know what your take is on this topic! :)

And ladies and gentleman, relax. It's just sex...

Welcome to It's Just Sex

So through my years of being a young adult, I've come across lots of sexual conversations between men and women and of course, my own personal experiences. I've come to learn that there are lots of men and women in their late teens/early-mid twenties and even older that have no idea what sex is. Yes, they don't know what SEX is.

There is a huge difference between good sex and bad sex and through this blog, I hope to open up your minds and your sexuality. Many of you may think that you know what you're doing, but I guarantee you, you will realize you aren't as good as you think you are. Men, learn what women want and women, learn what men want! So keep up, read on and learn a few new things in bed...or on the couch...or in the car. ;)

And ladies and gentleman, loosen up. It's just sex.