faking the orgasm...

I think this is vital for the ladies, so listen up!

NEVER, EVER, EVERRRR FAKE AN ORGASM!!! EVER! And here are the reasons why...

1. Most importantly...You never get yours.

2. You make him think he did a good job, when in reality, he didn't.

3. He'll continually do the same moves that he "thought" made you orgasm, which will suck for you.

4. If he ever finds out...his sexual ego will be really hurt.

We all like to think we're good in bed and that we're bringing new moves to the table. Most of the time, that isn't true. But regardless, good sex consists of both parties having fabulous orgasms. Now if someone (man or woman) fakes an orgasm, the other party will think they are doing something right and hold on to that “right” move and take pride in it. If after that they find out that you faked an orgasm, they would be pissed but mostly, their sexual ego would be hurt. No one wants their sexual ego hurt.

Now some of you may think, "Well I wanted to get it over with because it wasn't good and I wanted to stop." Totally fine, that happens. In that case, just stop. Get up, put your pants on and leave it at that. Because no matter which way you decide to handle the bad sex, you're going to hurt their sexual ego, but the worst of all scenarios is faking the orgasm. And no matter which route you choose, you still never get yours.

By not faking the orgasm, you show that person that what they are doing isn’t working. We all want to reach our sexual potential and when we get “fake” feedback, it doesn’t help our much-wanted skills. And although you may never have sex with that person again, they will go on to continue those unsuccessful skills to the next person and eventually they will learn the hard way that what they’ve been doing this entire time hasn’t been working. We all want to learn the right, successful ways of making the best orgasm happen and it’s up to everyone to help in that process by saying NO to fake orgasms!

A little side note for the ladies- when a man is going down on you, and it’s not working, you need to speak up and tell him what you want, they’re not mind readers. (I will post about communication in bed.) Don’t fake the moan either, they play off that. If after a long period of time you just don’t think it’s going to happen, let him know so he can stop because lots of men will stay down there until they get you off and if for whatever reason at that moment you know you can’t get off, it’s only fair to let him know and you guys can continue doing something else.

A little side not for the men- not every woman is the same but generally, we do have the same pleasure spots. If you notice that we aren’t giving good feedback or are laying stagnant, also speak up and ask what you can do to make it better. Switch it up a bit and try new things, when it feels really good, you’ll be able to sense the realness in our reaction. ;)

Now with that being said, no one turns pro overnight. It does take time, but if all orgasms are good and true, one can only get better from there. I am against fake orgasms because they condone bad sexual habits and I want to get MINE. So don’t fake the funk.

And ladies and gentleman, relax, it’s just sex.